Feeling with Others Through Pain

    January 19, 2023
    Habakkuk 3:17-19
    George Robertson
    It has been a tough week in Memphis. Even if you have not been personally affected by some of the tragedies that have occurred, you likely know someone who has. And even if you don't, as Christians, we are called to compassion, a "feeling with" others in their pain.
     
    It has always been helpful to me in such times to distinguish between the known and the unknown. It helps restore my soul to trust in God and his goodness and it helps me listen to and counsel others in their pain. There are at least three things I want you to know and be ready to share with others today.
    I. This is not the way it was supposed to be (Ge. 3:14-19; Ro. 8:20-25)
    Murder, death, mental illness, mourning, pain, fear—these are all results of Adam and Eve’s sin (the Fall). God did not create his world to house these enemies of human flourishing. The Bible makes this clear even while it does not explain fully the relationship between God’s sovereignty and man’s free will.
    Not only are anger and distress appropriate responses to recent events, they are welcomed by God. In fact, he provides the vocabulary for us to use in such times through passages like Psalm 44 and 88, Lamentations 3, Ecclesiastes and Habakkuk 1. John Calvin’s most frequent prayer was, “How long, O Lord?” (Ps. 13:1; 89:46)—I find myself exclaiming it more and more.
     
    2. There is comfort now for those who suffer (Ps. 46; 2 Co. 1:3-7)
    By praying this way we must be prepared for God to answer us with himself, rather than answers to specific tragedies. When God showed up in Habakkuk’s prayers and revealed that he was sovereignly guiding all of redemptive history in a way that would be best for his people and horrific for their enemies, the prophet’s agitation was quieted. He then concluded his prophecy with a resolution to trust the goodness of God’s character regardless.
    Similarly, Job put his hand over his mouth, and Jonah quit complaining when they saw that God’s infinite wisdom and unquestionable goodness were sufficient bases for trust until fuller answers come. God identifies himself as the Comforter, a present Help, and a Refuge. We must flee to him as the Good Shepherd; he will bring more solace than even a well-reasoned explanation for the existence of evil.
    Prayer brings peace (Ps. 4:8). The Scriptures anchor us (Ps. 33). Worship realigns us (Ps. 73:17). Community encourages us (He. 10:24, 25). Christ uses all of these means to bring pieces and the peace of heaven to us now.
     
    3. There will be a new creation without suffering (Re. 21:1-4)
    Someday all of these enemies, even death, will be no more and the world will be restored to what it was supposed to be and even better (2 Co. 4:17; 1 Co. 15). The Lord also taught us that such tragedies must awaken us spiritually. They call us to examine our hearts and repent so that we might be prepared to meet our returning Savior unashamed (Lk. 13:1-5).
    Sudden loss of life and tragic interruptions to the “normal” furthermore call us to ask if we are living in reality, which is that death is coming and eternity lies on the other side of it. Most of our western world lives as if indulgence, recreations and hobbies in this life is all the heaven there is.
     
    Ignatius of Loyola (1491-1556) provides a good example for how to respond to tragedies that rock our world. He was a soldier with a bright future ahead of him when a cannonball shattered his leg. Without anesthetics of course, they set his leg but incorrectly. Tough man that he was, he ordered the medics to rebreak it and reset it. His recovery was long and brutal, but the Lord met him in the midst of it. He took all the “why” questions of his suffering to God and God answered them with himself. So much so, that Ignatius developed a four-week spiritual pilgrimage to help others ask God their toughest questions and hear his answers from Scripture.
    The Spiritual Exercises have helped scores of believers throughout the centuries wait on the Lord for his comfort and guidance. Now is a time to exclaim, “How long, O Lord!,” put our hands over our mouths, an arm around a sufferer, and wait until God strengthens us to say:

    Though the fig tree should not blossom, nor fruit be on the vines, the produce of the olive fail and  fields yield no food, the flock be cut off from the fold and there be no heard in the stalls, yet I will rejoice in the Lord; I will take joy in the God of my salvation. God, the Lord, is my strength; he makes my feet like the deer’s; he makes me tread on my high places.

    Habakkuk 3:17–19


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